Let's be honest, there's absolutely nothing wrong with vanilla. In fact, most people find the scent comforting and the flavor delightful. In the BDSM world, Vanilla is also perfectly fine. For us, though, it means sexual/romantic activity lacking kinkiness. No "Sirs", paddles, cuffs, hair pulling, blindfolds, or other accoutrements. It's holding hands, kissing gently, slow … Continue reading V is for Vanilla
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U is for Uniform
By definition, a uniform is a distinctive type of clothing worn for the purpose of identification. Many people enjoy wearing uniforms for both BDSM/kinky purposes or in the course of their jobs. After all, who hasn't heard about the mythical "man in uniform" scenerio or the French Maid's uniform. Clothing says a lot about us. … Continue reading U is for Uniform
S is for submissive
I don't like when people, some even within the lifestyle, believe that a submissive is a weaker person, one whose purpose is to serve unconditionally. This is totally false. Submissives do not suffer from low self esteem, inferiority complex, acceptance of abuse, or any other mental illness any more than the rest of the population. … Continue reading S is for submissive
R is for Ritual
Rituals serve a purpose. They put us in the right frame of mind for the occassion. Eventually, we react instinctively when we are the midst of a ritual. Having been brought up Catholic, all I have to do is hear the words "In the name. . " and I'm finishing the words and moving to … Continue reading R is for Ritual
Q is for Quirt
"The falls on a quirt are made of leather, usually cow hide. The core of the quirt can be a leather bag filled with lead shot; the main part including the handle is often made from braided rawhide, leather, or kangaroo hide and is usually somewhat stiff but flexible." Originally, a quirt was used to help motivate a horse … Continue reading Q is for Quirt
P is for Play party
So there are parites - gathering of friends or friends of friends where drinks, conversation, and food is often shared. Sometimes there's music, sometimes games. At an Adult Play Party, much of the same is true, except the games are far more of a sexual nature. Despite what people think, a Play part is NOT … Continue reading P is for Play party
Training her ass
Clara has always wanted to engage in anal sex, but has always been too frightened. Our goal is to overcome that fear and to train her ass so that we can both enjoy it whenever we (and by that I mean I) choose. To begin, Clara put herself on a high fiber diet about a … Continue reading Training her ass
O is for OTK
O was a rough decision to make - O-ring, Orgasm, Oral sex, Obedience, Owned. Still, OTK or Over The Knee, I believe, is at the heart of BDSM. There is simply nothing like the feeling of your dominant pulling you over his knees and swatting your bare ass with his bare hand. To feel his … Continue reading O is for OTK
M is for Mental Bondage
BDSM doesn't have to involve ropes, chains, and cuffs. Sometimes, just a word is enough. A long time ago I was mentally in a place where I simply could not stand even the sight of ropes, cuffs, or any other form of physical bondage. We worked our way back slowly. My husband, always creative, slowly … Continue reading M is for Mental Bondage
L is for Limits
So there are hard limits and soft limits in BDSM. A soft limit is a practice where either the submissive or the dominant (Yes, dominants have limits too!!) is willing to attempt but is unsure. The uncertainty might come from having never done it before, the practice being a trigger, health reasons, or fear. Nonetheless, … Continue reading L is for Limits
Anarie Brady 