A slightly darkened room, candles on the table, a naked woman waiting for you. No, this is not the beginning of a Vanilla evening, but rather the beginning of a wax Play evening. Be warned!!! Wax play can be dangerous and leave SERIOUS BURNS. You DO NOT WANT THIS. If you are new to Wax … Continue reading W is for Wax Play
ABC for BDSM
V is for Vanilla
Let's be honest, there's absolutely nothing wrong with vanilla. In fact, most people find the scent comforting and the flavor delightful. In the BDSM world, Vanilla is also perfectly fine. For us, though, it means sexual/romantic activity lacking kinkiness. No "Sirs", paddles, cuffs, hair pulling, blindfolds, or other accoutrements. It's holding hands, kissing gently, slow … Continue reading V is for Vanilla
U is for Uniform
By definition, a uniform is a distinctive type of clothing worn for the purpose of identification. Many people enjoy wearing uniforms for both BDSM/kinky purposes or in the course of their jobs. After all, who hasn't heard about the mythical "man in uniform" scenerio or the French Maid's uniform. Clothing says a lot about us. … Continue reading U is for Uniform
T is for Training
I know to the Vanilla groups, training sounds archaic. But if you think about it, we train our bodies and minds in many ways - exercise, suduko, learning new skills. Really, that's all Submissive Training really is - learning a new skill. In this blog post, a woman decides to go to The Disciplinarian in order … Continue reading T is for Training
S is for submissive
I don't like when people, some even within the lifestyle, believe that a submissive is a weaker person, one whose purpose is to serve unconditionally. This is totally false. Submissives do not suffer from low self esteem, inferiority complex, acceptance of abuse, or any other mental illness any more than the rest of the population. … Continue reading S is for submissive
R is for Ritual
Rituals serve a purpose. They put us in the right frame of mind for the occassion. Eventually, we react instinctively when we are the midst of a ritual. Having been brought up Catholic, all I have to do is hear the words "In the name. . " and I'm finishing the words and moving to … Continue reading R is for Ritual
Q is for Quirt
"The falls on a quirt are made of leather, usually cow hide. The core of the quirt can be a leather bag filled with lead shot; the main part including the handle is often made from braided rawhide, leather, or kangaroo hide and is usually somewhat stiff but flexible." Originally, a quirt was used to help motivate a horse … Continue reading Q is for Quirt
P is for Play party
So there are parites - gathering of friends or friends of friends where drinks, conversation, and food is often shared. Sometimes there's music, sometimes games. At an Adult Play Party, much of the same is true, except the games are far more of a sexual nature. Despite what people think, a Play part is NOT … Continue reading P is for Play party
O is for OTK
O was a rough decision to make - O-ring, Orgasm, Oral sex, Obedience, Owned. Still, OTK or Over The Knee, I believe, is at the heart of BDSM. There is simply nothing like the feeling of your dominant pulling you over his knees and swatting your bare ass with his bare hand. To feel his … Continue reading O is for OTK
N is for Negotiation
Fifty Shades got some things right - negotiation was one of them, althought the follow through wasn't quite there IMHO. Negotiation is a term used to explain the discussion before play. These negotiations can be as simple as saying "I like this but I don't like that." to a formal contract clearly defining soft limits, … Continue reading N is for Negotiation
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