Xenophilia - one who is sexually excited by strangers. Hmmmm. Maybe this partially explains the allure of the one night stand bar hook-up. As with everything else, if this is your thing, use common sense as regards your safety. Better yet, let the "stranger" be unknown to you, but NOT to the arranger, possibly your … Continue reading X is for Xenophilia
W is for Wax Play
A slightly darkened room, candles on the table, a naked woman waiting for you. No, this is not the beginning of a Vanilla evening, but rather the beginning of a wax Play evening. Be warned!!! Wax play can be dangerous and leave SERIOUS BURNS. You DO NOT WANT THIS. If you are new to Wax … Continue reading W is for Wax Play
V is for Vanilla
Let's be honest, there's absolutely nothing wrong with vanilla. In fact, most people find the scent comforting and the flavor delightful. In the BDSM world, Vanilla is also perfectly fine. For us, though, it means sexual/romantic activity lacking kinkiness. No "Sirs", paddles, cuffs, hair pulling, blindfolds, or other accoutrements. It's holding hands, kissing gently, slow … Continue reading V is for Vanilla
U is for Uniform
By definition, a uniform is a distinctive type of clothing worn for the purpose of identification. Many people enjoy wearing uniforms for both BDSM/kinky purposes or in the course of their jobs. After all, who hasn't heard about the mythical "man in uniform" scenerio or the French Maid's uniform. Clothing says a lot about us. … Continue reading U is for Uniform
T is for Training
I know to the Vanilla groups, training sounds archaic. But if you think about it, we train our bodies and minds in many ways - exercise, suduko, learning new skills. Really, that's all Submissive Training really is - learning a new skill. In this blog post, a woman decides to go to The Disciplinarian in order … Continue reading T is for Training
S is for submissive
I don't like when people, some even within the lifestyle, believe that a submissive is a weaker person, one whose purpose is to serve unconditionally. This is totally false. Submissives do not suffer from low self esteem, inferiority complex, acceptance of abuse, or any other mental illness any more than the rest of the population. … Continue reading S is for submissive
R is for Ritual
Rituals serve a purpose. They put us in the right frame of mind for the occassion. Eventually, we react instinctively when we are the midst of a ritual. Having been brought up Catholic, all I have to do is hear the words "In the name. . " and I'm finishing the words and moving to … Continue reading R is for Ritual
Training her Ass – Finale
The intensive part of training Clara's has has been completed. After only one rebellion, Clara and I are both well pleased with the result. For her part, not only does she no longer fear anything anal, but eagerly looks forward to having her ass taken. If that's what it takes to keep my lady happy, … Continue reading Training her Ass – Finale
Q is for Quirt
"The falls on a quirt are made of leather, usually cow hide. The core of the quirt can be a leather bag filled with lead shot; the main part including the handle is often made from braided rawhide, leather, or kangaroo hide and is usually somewhat stiff but flexible." Originally, a quirt was used to help motivate a horse … Continue reading Q is for Quirt
Training her Ass – Part 2
So far, Clara has done remarkably well with her training. We began slowly with the beads, then with the same beads but for an extended time, then on the third day I inserted the smallest plug. She cringed at this, but after a few orgasms, accepted it easily enough. I kept it inside of her … Continue reading Training her Ass – Part 2
