BDSM doesn't have to involve ropes, chains, and cuffs. Sometimes, just a word is enough. A long time ago I was mentally in a place where I simply could not stand even the sight of ropes, cuffs, or any other form of physical bondage. We worked our way back slowly. My husband, always creative, slowly … Continue reading M is for Mental Bondage
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L is for Limits
So there are hard limits and soft limits in BDSM. A soft limit is a practice where either the submissive or the dominant (Yes, dominants have limits too!!) is willing to attempt but is unsure. The uncertainty might come from having never done it before, the practice being a trigger, health reasons, or fear. Nonetheless, … Continue reading L is for Limits
Extended Time for breaking rules
Spring Rules 2018 You guessed it. I screwed up again. Really, it wasn't my fault this time. True, I was cutting it close coming home from my friend Josie's house, but how was I to know that construction the highway started yesterday and I'd be stuck in traffic for over 45 minutes. Sure, I told … Continue reading Extended Time for breaking rules
Submission isn’t and is
Submission isn't about pain about bondage about discomfort. It isn't losing yourself inside of another. It's about loving totally and fully about respect about trust It's about finding yourself in the eyes of another. It's about giving and demanding and receiving and sharing Submission isn't frightening. It's liberating
K is for Klismaphilia
How many of you have heard of this word? I hadn't until I starting doing research for this series. According to Psychology Today it is a term coined by Dr Joanne Denko in the reporting of two case studies early 1970s ('klisma' is the Greek word for 'enema')—is a very unusual variant in sexual expression in which an … Continue reading K is for Klismaphilia
J is for Japanese Clover Clamps
These are some wicked clamps! Rumor has it they were invented by a Japanese seamstress, but I have no idea if that is true or false, so please, don't quote me on it. What I DO know is that these babies start with a tight, firm pinch and with each minute tug on the chain … Continue reading J is for Japanese Clover Clamps
I is for insertable
That's right - insertable. Absolutely anything that can be SAFELY inserted and then SAFELY removed. Plugs, dildos, ginger, fingers, tongues, cocks, fists, popciles, soap, balls - you name it. Key word here is SAFELY - never, ever forget that. If you're trying something new, do your research. Make sure of any allergies or phobias - … Continue reading I is for insertable
H is for Horse
Spanking horse, that is. Practically anything can be turned into a spanking bench or horse - a tall backed chaired, the end of a bed, a bar stool. Anything that a submissive can be bent over will work beautifully. Personally, I like this design (althought I have yet to actually try it myself!). I like … Continue reading H is for Horse
Mine
Do not, for one moment, think you have a choice. Well, much of a choice. You have two choices. Accept, or use your safeword/gesture, the one and only word or gesture that I will alwayes respect. Aside from that, you will accept. I need, demand, your total surrender. You will be blindfolded, bound, used, … Continue reading Mine
Humiliation – Day 3
Over the past 2 days I have been forced to accept and hold five enemas, release the contents of my bowels and bladder with no expectation of privacy, eat from a dog bowl, drink from a dog bowl, suffered the indignaties of bakkara, have my body used as a convas for rude, filthy names, been fucked … Continue reading Humiliation – Day 3
Anarie Brady 