(This is a piece of non-fiction.) I'm sad often. I am well aware that my problems are First World problems and am grateful every time I turn on a faucet for clean water, turn a switch for light, or push a button for cool air. But Sadness is real and affects the body in all kinds of … Continue reading Sadness matters
Non fiction
Pride Month – Personal Perspective (Non-fiction)
Am I the only one who thinks this whole "_____ Month"' has gotten a bit out of hand? We now have Pride Month, Black History Month, Asian American History Month, Irish American History month, Heart Disease awareness month, Autism Awareness Month, Alzheimer's Awareness month (which is near and dear to my heart), Breast Cancer awareness … Continue reading Pride Month – Personal Perspective (Non-fiction)
5 ways to let Him know you need Dominated
TELL HIM. Simple, but often ignored. Have a heart to heart conversation about what you truly need and what you are willing to do to get it. Research. Peruse some factual and fictional sites together to come up with ideas that excite you both. Start slowly. When you are both ready, begin adding words like … Continue reading 5 ways to let Him know you need Dominated
Thoughts
I hate autumn. I hate the trees losing their greenness, losing their protective garments, losing that which conceals their true colors and forces them to expose their trueness to the world. Autumn truly is the last hoorah. The last burst of life before death covers the world and all that is left is the skeleton … Continue reading Thoughts
Z is for Zipper
Zippers have long been in use for a quick - or slow - removal of clothing. In the BDSM world, however, a zipper is a series of clothes pins attached to a string of some kind. The pins are then clipped onto the skin and, by pulling the string, can be quickly - and painfully! … Continue reading Z is for Zipper
Y is for Yes
Yes is an extremely powerful word. It implies permission and acceptance - two very different, but companionable ideas. The who says this (or doesn't say it) also holds a great deal of power. This, dear readers, is a shared responsibility between the Dom and Sub; Top and Bottom; Master/Mistress and slave. Any relationship, not just … Continue reading Y is for Yes
V is for Vanilla
Let's be honest, there's absolutely nothing wrong with vanilla. In fact, most people find the scent comforting and the flavor delightful. In the BDSM world, Vanilla is also perfectly fine. For us, though, it means sexual/romantic activity lacking kinkiness. No "Sirs", paddles, cuffs, hair pulling, blindfolds, or other accoutrements. It's holding hands, kissing gently, slow … Continue reading V is for Vanilla
S is for submissive
I don't like when people, some even within the lifestyle, believe that a submissive is a weaker person, one whose purpose is to serve unconditionally. This is totally false. Submissives do not suffer from low self esteem, inferiority complex, acceptance of abuse, or any other mental illness any more than the rest of the population. … Continue reading S is for submissive
O is for OTK
O was a rough decision to make - O-ring, Orgasm, Oral sex, Obedience, Owned. Still, OTK or Over The Knee, I believe, is at the heart of BDSM. There is simply nothing like the feeling of your dominant pulling you over his knees and swatting your bare ass with his bare hand. To feel his … Continue reading O is for OTK
N is for Negotiation
Fifty Shades got some things right - negotiation was one of them, althought the follow through wasn't quite there IMHO. Negotiation is a term used to explain the discussion before play. These negotiations can be as simple as saying "I like this but I don't like that." to a formal contract clearly defining soft limits, … Continue reading N is for Negotiation
Anarie Brady 