BDSM doesn't have to involve ropes, chains, and cuffs. Sometimes, just a word is enough. A long time ago I was mentally in a place where I simply could not stand even the sight of ropes, cuffs, or any other form of physical bondage. We worked our way back slowly. My husband, always creative, slowly … Continue reading M is for Mental Bondage
ABC for BDSM
L is for Limits
So there are hard limits and soft limits in BDSM. A soft limit is a practice where either the submissive or the dominant (Yes, dominants have limits too!!) is willing to attempt but is unsure. The uncertainty might come from having never done it before, the practice being a trigger, health reasons, or fear. Nonetheless, … Continue reading L is for Limits
K is for Klismaphilia
How many of you have heard of this word? I hadn't until I starting doing research for this series. According to Psychology Today it is a term coined by Dr Joanne Denko in the reporting of two case studies early 1970s ('klisma' is the Greek word for 'enema')—is a very unusual variant in sexual expression in which an … Continue reading K is for Klismaphilia
J is for Japanese Clover Clamps
These are some wicked clamps! Rumor has it they were invented by a Japanese seamstress, but I have no idea if that is true or false, so please, don't quote me on it. What I DO know is that these babies start with a tight, firm pinch and with each minute tug on the chain … Continue reading J is for Japanese Clover Clamps
I is for insertable
That's right - insertable. Absolutely anything that can be SAFELY inserted and then SAFELY removed. Plugs, dildos, ginger, fingers, tongues, cocks, fists, popciles, soap, balls - you name it. Key word here is SAFELY - never, ever forget that. If you're trying something new, do your research. Make sure of any allergies or phobias - … Continue reading I is for insertable
H is for Horse
Spanking horse, that is. Practically anything can be turned into a spanking bench or horse - a tall backed chaired, the end of a bed, a bar stool. Anything that a submissive can be bent over will work beautifully. Personally, I like this design (althought I have yet to actually try it myself!). I like … Continue reading H is for Horse
G is for Grandmothering
This IS NOT GILF (grandmothers I'd like to fuck). It is about appearing in front of your grandmother in such a manner as she would approve of - at least on the outside. Wearing a pretty, modest dress or other outfit, but beneath wearing whatever your Dominant choose you to wear. For example, wearing a … Continue reading G is for Grandmothering
F is for Funishment
Funishment is a traditional type of punishment that is used not for discipline, but for pleasure. Naturally, the list for this ends only with your imagination. Can you use the same activity for both a funishment and a punishment? Of course!! The difference, at least for me, is HOW the fun/punishment is administered. For example, … Continue reading F is for Funishment
E – BDSM Alphabet
Erotica, Edging, Electroplay, Enema - what to choose? Enema - I choose you!!! Many people - understandably so - view enema play as disgusting and gross. To fair, it rather is. Also to be fair, if you want to engage in anal play, sometimes it's necessary to make sure the area to be used is … Continue reading E – BDSM Alphabet
D is for – BDSM Alphabet
Dungeon, Diaper, Dildo, Daddy, Discipline. Dacryphilia Okay, Dacryphilia is a new one? I'm not surprised. It's the feeling of arousal brought about by seeing or inducing another's tears. No, this is not a sign of "sickness." Let's talk about tears for a moment and why people cry. Pain and Strong emotion are two primary reasons. … Continue reading D is for – BDSM Alphabet
Anarie Brady 