BDSM doesn't have to involve ropes, chains, and cuffs. Sometimes, just a word is enough. A long time ago I was mentally in a place where I simply could not stand even the sight of ropes, cuffs, or any other form of physical bondage. We worked our way back slowly. My husband, always creative, slowly … Continue reading M is for Mental Bondage
Non fiction
L is for Limits
So there are hard limits and soft limits in BDSM. A soft limit is a practice where either the submissive or the dominant (Yes, dominants have limits too!!) is willing to attempt but is unsure. The uncertainty might come from having never done it before, the practice being a trigger, health reasons, or fear. Nonetheless, … Continue reading L is for Limits
E – BDSM Alphabet
Erotica, Edging, Electroplay, Enema - what to choose? Enema - I choose you!!! Many people - understandably so - view enema play as disgusting and gross. To fair, it rather is. Also to be fair, if you want to engage in anal play, sometimes it's necessary to make sure the area to be used is … Continue reading E – BDSM Alphabet
D is for – BDSM Alphabet
Dungeon, Diaper, Dildo, Daddy, Discipline. Dacryphilia Okay, Dacryphilia is a new one? I'm not surprised. It's the feeling of arousal brought about by seeing or inducing another's tears. No, this is not a sign of "sickness." Let's talk about tears for a moment and why people cry. Pain and Strong emotion are two primary reasons. … Continue reading D is for – BDSM Alphabet
B – BDSM Alphabet
Okay, I have to go with the expected here - BUTTPLUG!!!! Of course, the choices here are absolutely ENDLESS!!! First, let's talk about shape. Traditionally, the egg style shape is quite popular, but something more elongated, narrow at the top and wide at the bottom also w orks well. There are also the balls which … Continue reading B – BDSM Alphabet
The difference between a Submissive and a Victim
(For the sake of ease of reading, I'll be using the pronoun "she". This does not mean that this applies to only females.) Submissive She does what she does because she has freely and without fear of consequences chooses to. She has absolute trust in the integrity of her partner. Nothing is done without her … Continue reading The difference between a Submissive and a Victim
Getting Ready – an Open Letter to Gentlemen
Gentlemen, It is an honor to be seen with you, to be with you. Know that we prepare for this honor sometimes for hours. We shower, shave, slather lotion on, dry our hair, curl or straighten it, arrange it in an up do, braid it. We perfume our bodies. We pluck or wax our legs, … Continue reading Getting Ready – an Open Letter to Gentlemen
The Nymph’s Reply
The Nymph’s Reply to the Shepherd BY SIR WALTER RALEGH If all the world and love were young, And truth in every Shepherd’s tongue, These pretty pleasures might me move, To live with thee, and be thy love. Time drives the flocks from field to fold, When Rivers rage and Rocks grow cold, And Philomel becometh dumb, The … Continue reading The Nymph’s Reply
The Passionate Shepherd
The Passionate Shepherd to His Love BY CHRISTOPHER MARLOWE Come live with me and be my love, And we will all the pleasures prove, That Valleys, groves, hills, and fields, Woods, or steepy mountain yields. And we will sit upon the Rocks, Seeing the Shepherds feed their flocks, By shallow Rivers to whose falls Melodious birds … Continue reading The Passionate Shepherd
Submind – explained
I used the term "submind" in much of my writing, but trying to actually define what it is can be a bit nebulous. First, let me point out that it's different for every person. The OED defines it as a "lesser, lower mind; the subconscious part of a person's mind." When I first read that … Continue reading Submind – explained
Anarie Brady 