B – BDSM Alphabet

Okay, I have to go with the expected here – BUTTPLUG!!!! Of course, the choices here are absolutely ENDLESS!!!

First, let’s talk about shape. Traditionally, the egg style shape is quite popular, but something more elongated, narrow at the top and wide at the bottom also w

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orks well. There are also the balls which generally are a sting of between five and nine increasing in size. The thing is, you CAN get too big and cause damage. You CAN get too small and the thing can get stuck – which you certainly do not want!! Personally, I prefer the egg shape – it’s simply comfortable. There’s also the round ball which can be challenging and somewhat painful going in (maybe that’s the goal?) but it will certainly stay in place once there. These days, you can even get plugs shaped like your favorite, or least favorite, politican. Basically, use some common sense, choose a shape which appeals to you and your submissive, and one the fits his or her body as comfortably as possible. Remember – GO SLOWLY AND ALWAYS USE LOTS OF LUBE!!!

Material:  Again, an almost endless smorgasborg of choices! Some oldies but goodies are silicone, metal, and glass – all good choices as long as you disinfect properly! Be careful with balls – string cannot be disinfected, so I’m going to suggest silicone which can be. There’s also wood. Yes. Wood. DO NOT SHARE WOOD TOYS!!! These are finished with a “salad bowl” finish and can, in fact, be washed in very hot soap and water (some are dishwasher safe!) and disinfected. You can also carve your own out of edible products, but be careful! Again, you don’t want anything to get stuck up there, so make sure you have a wide bottom and a “neck” for the spinchter to grasp. Some choices are carrots, potatoes, cukes, zucchini, and ginger – ginger will produce a solid burning sensation without damage to tissue. You can go for ice, BUT ONLY FOR A SHORT TIME PERIOD. VERY SHORT!!! Delicate tissue can easily become frostbitten!

SIZE.  As Image result for big butt plugswith most things – start small and work your way up. Inserting too much too fast can cause LASTING DAMAGE. USE LOTS OF LUBE (Notice this comes up often!) Once your sub is so comfortable with a size that he/she barely notices it, try something bigger or wider. Just be sure to go up incrementally! You DO NOT WANT to cause damage!!! The ass is a lovely place to play. If you damage your playground, no more playing!!

DURATION:  As above – go up incrementally! If your sub is in PAIN, take it out!!! If your sub is uncomfortable, that’s just fine. Start with a fairly short time, but not too short. You want to let your sub’s body become accustomed to this new and delightful intrusion. Say a beginning time of fifteen minutes then work your way up in 5 minute blocks to an hour. Yes, a sub’s body can be trained to take a plug for hours and hours, but not right away! Be patient!

PURPOSE:  Now here’s the interesting one. What is your purpse in using a plug? Is it to prepare the anus for your cock? If so, you might not want to go bigger than your cock’s circumference while in “training.” Is it to humiliate the sub? Perfect! Get one with a tail or some other pretty dangling bit. Is it to remind him/her of your dominance? Then a bit of discomfort is perfect! Choose your plug depending upon your purpose – AND DON’T FORGET THE LUBE!!!

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