I’ve been writing BDSM erotica for over 10 years now, but I’ve been practicing it for well over 30. My boyfriend, now my husband, and I just fell into it, not really even knowing what we were doing, but definitely knowing that what we were doing felt amazing.
All of our adventures, though, hinged on respect. He respected me enough not to push me too hard and to never, ever push me to do something he KNEW I didn’t want to do.
I also respected him enough to follow his lead even if it meant going outside of my own comfort zone. If I did not respect him, I would have never learned of the joys of clamps, plugs, semi-public (parties) submission, spanking, bondage, and a host of other pleasures.
Basically, without respect, there would be no trust and without trust, there is no consent.
Anarie Brady 
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I agree with what you say about all the factors feeding and growing from each other. I love your fiction so it is really nice to be able to read a bit about your own dynamic and about you as a person. Thanks for adding to Tell Me About 😊
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Love this so much! Respect has never been sexier.
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Absolutely spot on.. thank you for sharing with Tell Me About too!
I agree completely that respect, trust and consent go hand in hand.
Sweetgirl x
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Your last bit says it all…
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Thank you.
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I really like the last sentence, because it holds a lot of truth in it. I think respect in D/s is strongly linked to consent and a respect of limits. So much stronger defined than in vanilla relationships.
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